In March, Simplify. From Scattered to Focused
- Apr 1
- 4 min read
Simplify: Do Less, to Do Better
When I wrote "simplify my life even further" on my list of personal development themes for March, I wasn't only thinking about decluttering my closets and drawers, lightening my schedules (professional and personal) cleaning up my contacts list, or simply breathing more freely inside and outside my home.
I was also visualizing something much deeper and more meaningful: my mental health, my inner well-being, and my nervous system, so often pushed to its limits.
To get there, I first had to - once again - look honestly and clearly at where my precious energy was actually going. Especially since a professional setback forced me to face that not-so-glamorous reality rather quickly.
I found myself, yet again, reflecting on my work-life balance. On the choices I made last year, and the ones I've kept this year. On the things I stopped doing and left behind for good. On the people I stopped seeing, grateful for the experience and the lesson both. On the directions I walked away from because they were draining my now-limited energy and slowing my progress toward what truly matters.
It's never a comfortable exercise. But it's a necessary one.
Simplifying Also Means Knowing When to Say Stop
Something happened in March. A professional situation - one I've chosen not to detail here - abruptly forced me to face something I had long avoided: my tendency to give, to help, to invest myself... sometimes far beyond what is reasonable. And often, without a safety net.
That situation cost me. In energy, in time, in trust. And above all, in inner peace, the very peace I had been working to build since the beginning of the year.
It took me several days to process. Several journaling sessions, spread across several mornings, to untangle what I was truly feeling. Anger, of course. Sadness, too. Frustration, still. And something that felt like shame, even though I had nothing to blame myself for.
It's striking, the violence of unexpected relational disappointments. They're already loud at the moment of impact. They echo long after, in places you thought had healed and held firm.
Thankfully, journaling did its work again. Not by erasing the pain, but by giving it a shape I could work with. It helped me move through that moment without getting lost in it.
I told myself: "Slowed down - maybe. Stopped - never."
"You Can't Help Others at Your Own Expense."
This is something I've said to others more times than I can count. In March, I had to say it to myself.
Because boundless generosity isn't a virtue. It's self-abandonment. It's a way of searching for something: validation, usefulness, belonging, in spaces outside yourself, where you will never find it.
Simplifying, this March, also meant this: stopping planting seeds in infertile soil.
The most fertile ground I know is within me. Refocus, please!
This might sound harsh. But it's really about respect. For others, who may simply not be ready to move forward yet, and above all for yourself, who refuses to slow down her momentum or her growth.
Focus: The Moment of Truth
It took me a long time to realize and to admit just how scattered I had become. Through lack of discipline, yes. Through unfocused excess curiosity, yes. And through a need to prove something, to myself and to others.
This realization is recent. It came in the last quarter of 2025. It has been confirmed in the first quarter of 2026.
Wanting to try everything, in multiple directions at once, is simply a way of not truly moving forward anywhere. Others recognized and accepted this before I did. It was time I did the same.
By choosing to focus on activities and projects rooted in writing, I started moving forward in a more intentional, funneled way. I had to convince myself that doing less across the board would genuinely help me do better where it truly mattered.
I also started practicing finishing one thing before starting another. And for me, that is a real challenge.
Journaling to Clear Inner Space
Journaling helped me in a decisive way in March.
Writing to sort through things. Putting everything cluttering my mind down on paper, then looking at what actually deserved my attention. Not what felt urgent to others. What felt important to me.
March Exercise 1:
Take a blank page and write down everything currently occupying your mind. Then circle the three things that truly matter. The rest can wait.
And if you are living or have lived one of those situations where you give more than you receive, where you exhaust yourself carrying what isn't yours to carry, I invite you to open your notebook and write, without a filter, without trying to get it right:
March Exercise 2:
Where or to whom am I giving at my own expense right now? And why?
The answers that come are rarely comfortable. But they are almost always liberating.
A March Wrap-Up
After that sorting, what remained was the essential. The projects that energize me, that light me up. The relationships that truly nourish me. The habits that do me good, even heal me. And the precious clarity of knowing why I do what I do — everything I choose to do.
That is what simplifying means to me now. Refocusing, narrowing my lens. This won't make me less. On the contrary, it will refine me, sharpen me.
The best version of myself is waiting for me on the other side of this path.
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